|I Just Called To Say I Love You
This month we celebrate the Fourth of July, the United States of America’s Independence Day! As we reflect on the gift of our national independence we can also reflect on what seems to be an exact opposite – the gift of interdependence.
There was a little girl who was calling out to her father at night during a loud thunderstorm, “Daddy, I’m scared!” Her father called back to her, “Sweetie, it’s just a storm. Go back to sleep. God’s got everything under control.” The child called back, “I know God’s got everything under control but right now I need someone with skin on!” Friends can be that “someone with skin on.”
Think back on the times you’ve spent with friends. For most of us, these are some of the best moments of our lives. Songwriters have always known that relationships are what make life thrilling and challenging. Think about your favorite songs. Don’t they highlight the importance of friendship?
Can you hear Stevie Wonder singing?
“No first of spring…no song to sing…
In fact here’s just another ordinary day….
I just called to say I love you…..”
What about “You’ve Got a Friend” by Carole King?
“When you’re down and troubled…
All you have to do is call
And I’ll be there
You’ve got a friend….”
We even hear the same theme in animated movies. Do you remember “You’ve Got a Friend in Me” from Toy Story?
“You've got a friend in me
When the road looks rough ahead
And you're miles and miles
From your nice warm bed
You just remember what your old pal said
Boy, you've got a friend in me”
As author Joan Chittister writes in The Friendship of Women, “Friendship colors the very air we breathe. It is everywhere around us….As long as there is someone, somewhere whose life breathes in time with my own, I know down deep that I am indeed needed…I know that I am truly indispensable, irreplaceable, vital to a life beyond my own.” In our modern world in which we are connected 24/7 through technology, we may have lost contact with the meaning of authentic connection. Deep, lasting friendships take time and few of us seem to have time. We struggle between our need for independence versus our desire for connection. There is clear evidence that people who have friends are simply healthier, happier people.
If you are currently experiencing loneliness or difficulty in your relationships, your theme song might be “A Bridge Over Troubled Water.” Methodist Healthcare EAP is the “bridge” to help you navigate those “troubled waters.” We are here to help you build more positive and authentic relationships. We offer free, confidential counseling to you and all members of your household. Give us a call at 901-683-5658 or 1-800-880-5658. We all have a story to tell and we’re in this together.
Author: Susan Erdman received her Masters Degree in Pastoral Studies in 1987 and her Masters Degree in Social Work in 1989. She has worked for Methodist Le Bonheur Healthcare since 1990 and as an EAP counselor since 1993. She is originally from Honolulu, Hawaii, and has called Memphis home for 30 years.